January 23rd, 2012 by Betty Arenson
Some things just should not be political but most, if not all things, should be human. Sadly, with the vast expanse of the media today we're getting a first hand look into occurrences of what I call No Human Involved (NHI). Its these times when we are reminded that ugly has far-reaching tentacles and we get slapped in the face with it.
On or about January 2nd liberal commentator Alan Colmes was on a Fox (his employer) show bantering with Rich Lowry. They were discussing Republican presidential candidate Rick Santorum. In that conversation Colmes stated Rick Santorum had said and done "crazy" things then mocked the Santorums about the death of their baby. Baby Gabriel was born in 1996 and died within about two hours.
The Santorums are faithful Catholics and have, I believe seven children. As I understand it, they had notice that this baby would not survive once it was born. What a horrific thing to confront. What may be bizarre to some is that the couple spent some hours with the baby at the hospital then took it home to meet and mourn with their family unit prior to interment.
Rather than recognize or try to appreciate the weight of this awful event, Colmes had to shoot of his vile mouth on national television, if not world-wide, that Santorum took "his two-hour-old baby, who died right after childbirth, home and played with it for a couple of hours so his other children would know that the child was real."
That's right folks, Colmes said they "played with it"!!! I had to watch the tape twice to see if someone could actually say such a thing. Yep, he did and it was with the signature Colmes mocking, grating asinine smirkiness.
Rich Lowry was flabbergasted. Colmes confirmed several times he was not backing off of the statement and clearly had NO problem with his choice of words. In that realm of slime, Colmes once again proved his comfort zone.
While some sane humans might be just thoroughly offended, I am ultra sensitive to the event. Many people have had up-close and personal walks with such circumstances and I am among them.
My second pregnancy was threatened but ended safely. One of my granddaughters, per the doctors, at her birth said "she crashed but we got her back". One of my grandsons was critically ill at three weeks old and rushed from SCV to UCLA by ambulance. By the Grace of God and good doctors he survived as well. In this moment I can think of six friends who have lost children at various ages and most vividly etched in my memory is "Mary". She lived the same circumstance the Santorums did.
In addition to being social friends, Mary and I worked together and car-pooled for about three years. You get to know someone very well being in a car together 2-3 hours every day for five days a week. Mary and her husband tried for years to get pregnant and at last the treatments took. Sadly they learned at seven months in-utero, the baby would not survive. It was a forced birth due to Mary's own failing health and to say it was hell is an understatement. The interim time was heart wrenching let alone the birth.
That little boy lived about two hours and the extended family spent considerable hours in the hospital room meeting him, holding him, loving him and saying goodbye. No, they did not play.
I wrote a eulogy for that little baby boy that was read at the funeral, complete with tiny white casket and all. My still-sad memory is very clear of the weeping mother, my crushed friend Mary, when she turned and saw that tiny casket being wheeled into the entry of the church. Somehow I think the Santorum's did the same.
Yes, Alan Colmes, NHI Alan Colmes, stuck to his misguided guns through out the show with a very clear conscience. Evidently some real human got to him later as he allegedly spit out a tweet: "just spoke to @ricksantorum. He and Karen graciously accepted my apology for a hurtful comment.”
Now, read his "apology" words again. First, we do not know it was actually a Colmes tweet. My money is on that someone else actually had to do it for him. Secondly those inane, superficial words are not even even close to an apology, let alone a heartfelt one.
Just imagine if anything even close to that had been said when John and Jackie Kennedy lost their baby boy Patrick shortly after birth.
Alan Colmes did not spew the painful words in an off-the-head comment. Those were chosen words. A real human hears wrong words come out of their mouth, immediately gasps and starts trying to amend and mend. Not Alan Colmes. Not NHI Alan Colmes.
Yep, Alan Colmes still has a job with Fox. Still showing up and smirking. He was cajoling with Bill O'Reilly on The Factor within two days. As an aside, I wrote to O'Reilly and asked him how he could keep such despicable company and not even call Colmes on it (no response of course). The press did not cover it and all remains well in the world of the NHI.